In with the New

Happy New Year, everyone! I sincerely hope that they new year brings you all of the love, success, and happiness that you deserve. 

Boy, was I happy to see my girls again after winter break! I've said this before, but they give me LIFE! Nothing makes me happier than spending time with my girls. I mean, look at that face! ---> 

So much cuteness. And the things that come out of their mouths are just unbelievable. Seeing them on Thursday renewed my spirit and gave me the much needed reminder of why I'm here. This year, I hope to live my life in honor of the 19 beautiful girls that steal my heart week after week. 

Since it was our first meeting of the year, I wanted the girls to take the time to reflect on 2015 and plan accordingly for 2016. However, I wanted this to be different that just writing a list of new years resolutions. You and I both now how flaky resolutions can be sometimes. Many times, our resolutions turn into a list of everything we hate about ourselves and want to fix. Trust me, I've been there. One year I wrote a list of 30 resolutions. Do you think I did them all? No way! Not even close. It was way too many and so impractical. The reason why my list was so long was because I was so unhappy with the way things were in my life and I never took the time to deal with the real issues. I just wanted to combat my problems with a goal that wasn't even feasible. It was a way for me to ignore the problems and dream of a life that was better. What I really needed, though, was to address the issue, forgive myself or someone else for it, close the chapter, and move on. Instead of taking the time to close the chapter, we try to cover it up with other things that distract us from what we're truly feeling. But unfortunately, that's only a temporary solution. The only way we can conquer it is by sharing our truth and clearing it away. 

I had the girls gather in a circle and I told them to think of one moment from 2015 that was a low point for them, something that was discouraging or let them down. We went around the circle and shared our moment by saying: 

I am clearing the fact that _____________. 

We used the word clearing to signify that we're putting in away and not bringing it into the new year. 
This activity was such a beautiful moment for us. From the loss of a pet, to being called a degrading racial slur, to the divorce of their parents, the girls were able to pull to the surface things they have been hiding for months. It was heartbreaking to listen to, but I was incredibly proud of them for being so open and honest. There were tons of tears but at the end of it all, one of the girls mentioned the relief she felt from just getting it out. I love that. That's exactly how I wanted them to feel 

You guys know that I'm always super transparent on this blog, so here's mine: 

I am clearing the fact that some friendships don't last forever no matter how hard I try to keep them. 

2015 forced me to come to terms with the truth that people will fail me and I will certainly fail others as well. It's a part of life. People come into our lives for a reason and just because they were a blessing during one season, that doesn't mean they will continue to bless you during another season. Friendship begin and end, and that's OKAY. Although it's hard to come to terms with, I look forward to the new relationships I will build during the next seasons of my life. 

Lastly, the girls wrote down some goals for themselves for the new year. The goals were meant to guide them to focus on what's most important and create a positive outlook on the year ahead. 
- What I really want in 2016 is...
- What I really need in 2016 is...
- What I will share in 2016 is...
- In 2016 I will succeed at...

"So, I close my eyes to old ends and open my heart to new beginnings." - Nick Frederickson

I hope that this post encourages you to "clear away" whatever demons you dealt with in 2015 so that you can make 2016 your best year yet. Sending you all lots of love and best wishes! Happy 2016! 

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