2.15.2015

Love & Positivity


Happy (belated) Valentine's Day, everyone! In the spirit of the holiday, I decided to focus on love this week in Girl Rising. How do we show the special people in our lives that we love them? How do we show them that we care? The thing about relationships is that in order for them to work, we need to give the other person what they need. I read a book last summer called The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. I am borderline obsessed with that woman. She is amazing. Look her up, it will change your life. Basically, one of the major things she talks about in all of her books and TEDtalks is that all people crave the same thing: love and belonging. No matter who you are, we all want to be loved and we all want to feel like we mean something to someone. In order to have meaningful relationships with others, we need to make them feel loved. We all show love in different ways, and that's perfectly okay. The important thing is that we make sure that our loved ones feel cared for, accepted, wanted, and loved. I do my best every day to make sure that the people I love know how I feel about them. Whether it's with a phone call, a gift, a sweet gesture, or an "I love you", showing love is what brings us all closer together. 

The girls and I talked about all of those things. We even talked about how to keep loving people even when they do something to upset us. For example, we've all had those moments where we have disagreements with our parents. But the important thing to remember is that their actions stem from love. We need to be understanding and give them love in return. We also talked about how the people who treat us poorly are often the people that need our love the most. We met in a circle and shared one person that we love and one thing we can do in the next few days to make that person feel special. Most of the girls chose their parents and the teachers (me!). It was beautiful to hear their reflections. After, we paired up and told our partner everything that we love about them. It was awesome to share with the girls how much I love them and I enjoyed the compliments on my end as well (total self-esteem booster).  I am so lucky to love and be loved. 

On a personal note, this weekend has been a trying one for me. On Friday night, my car overheated and died in the mall parking lot after work. Then, I had to deal with the tow truck driver from hell who got us stuck in a ditch and we barely made it to the car place before they closed. On Saturday, it took an hour and half to get a rental car and I found out my car would be $900 to fix. Today, on my drive to church, I got a flat tire in the rental car and had to wait in the right lane of a busy road with my hazards on for 45 minutes while I waited for AAA. So clearly, it was a fabulous weekend full of all the fun times anyone could possibly desire. It's forced me to reflect quite a bit on my current situation in my life. Here's what I came up with: Even though this weekend sucked and it seemed like bad things kept happening one after the other, I am thankful. It's just a car. What could I possibly have to complain about? I'm alive, I'm safe, I'm healthy, I have 25 amazing students that love me, I get to wake up every morning to do the job I've dreamed of doing since I was 7 years old, I had a Valentine yesterday, I have friends in Houston and in NJ that care about me, I have the greatest parents in the world....the list goes on and on. I am blessed. My life is not defined by the failures or the cases of bad luck. Rather, it is defined by the many blessings that come my way on a daily basis. I am so fortunate to have this life that is full of more love than I know what to do with. How can I complain? All you need is love. 

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